From the previous post, you should have started to gain an idea of the important role that is being played by objects and their function in the entire approach to hygge. In this chapter, we will explore the role of objects even further.
Here, we stress the importance of allowing certain objects to move on and not to feel bad about it. After all, feeling bad about something is not exactly working along with the concept of mindfulness as you enter a dark cycle of sadness, and that is the antithesis of what hygge is all about.
So, let’s explore objects in your home and life a bit further and see how you can prepare yourself for potentially letting go. Remember, often the letting go part is the hardest stage, but once you get through it, the sense of freedom that you experience makes it all feel worthwhile.
This is something that can take some time for you to work through, but work through it you must if you do indeed aspire to fully embrace hygge in and around your home. Of course, the length of time it will take is dependent on how large your home is and also how many objects you own, but the concepts stay the same regardless.
Looking at the Objects
The length of time it will take to go through objects in your home will vary depending on what you own, but the concept remains the same.
In Denmark, it is not generally accepted in society for people to own several different items. This extravagance is frowned upon by society, so it’s unusual for homes to be as full as they tend to be in other countries. However, they are still going to look at the objects that are in their possession and fully assess their role in the home.
Their normal approach is that you only own what you need. For the Danes, this approach is more important than the price they pay for items.
That being said, what should your approach be with your objects?
Well, the first thing is to take stock of what you have. You need to be aware of the objects you own, as this is the only way in which you can then ever hope to decipher their functionality or purpose and how it fits into your plans for each room.
To do this, you must try and move past the concept of just ‘liking’ an object because feeling this way is different from it having a purpose.
Think of these questions before you go any further:
- How much do I like it?
- What is its role?
- Does it fit in with the proposed function of the room?
- Is it the only one I have, or do I have more of the same?
- Do I have similar objects elsewhere in the home?
We are talking about some very basic questions, and yet they can make it so much easier for you to come to an understanding of what objects you should perhaps hold onto and those objects that may be best served elsewhere.
However, even when it comes to throwing out objects or moving them on, the Danes don’t do it without any thought. We will look at this next.
Moving Items on in the Correct Manner
Finally, we have to quickly mention the importance of moving the items on in the correct manner. You see, most of us tend to just throw things in the trash once we have finished with them, but is that the correct thing to do?
It’s perhaps best to remember the saying ‘another man’s trash is another man’s treasure’ because that phrase in itself is hygge. Just because you no longer require it doesn’t mean that everybody else will feel the same way.
So, how do you move items on in the correct manner if you aren’t just throwing them away? Well, it’s all to do with your state of mind at the time and the thoughts that go into the entire process.
You need to understand that there is a very strong concept of sharing in hygge and this is something that all Danes will do, and there’s no doubt that it does bring its sense of happiness. However, most of us will have never thought about doing it with items we own, and this is a shame.
For the Danes, there is a sense of enjoyment in moving items on to a new home, whether it be donating to a charity or giving the object to a friend or relative that has expressed their love or desire for the object. Either of these options brings with it real satisfaction, and then you have the added benefit of knowing that the item is no longer cluttering up your space.
In other words, you are going to win on more than one level.
Completing the Initial Analysis of Objects in the Home
We will be spending more time looking at objects in different areas. However, at this point, our main focus has been on just trying to get you prepared for looking at what you own.
Only a small percentage of people do this, and that’s one reason why we have this amazing ability to accumulate ‘stuff.’
Thanks to their approach, the Danes manage to avoid this particular issue as they are aware of what they are looking for, how it fits in, and the role it plays before they spend money. Also, they understand if they already have something that will fit the bill, which does make life so much easier.
You will also find that they are methodical in how they go about things. The study objects, think about them, discuss them with others if required, and come to a well-considered opinion as to what should happen to it. If the item is to be moved on elsewhere, then they do so with a happy heart and thank the object for the service and pleasure it has given them.
If you pass on an object with a happy heart and have come to terms with the idea that it will then belong to someone else, then there’s little chance of you regretting your decision later. That’s also why they spend time being aware of their belongings as it then decides to let it go so much easier to make.
So, to complete the analysis of what you have in your home, we recommend doing this:
- Work through the items in each room and be prepared to have a clear out.
- As before, check if you have more than one and, if so, do you need it?
- Consider if an object can be used elsewhere in the home.
- Accept if something has had its time with you.
Allow it to go elsewhere so it can be enjoyed and bring pleasure.