In the previous post, we mentioned the idea of de-cluttering your home as being a key part of embracing hygge. However, de-cluttering in hygge can mean so much more than just throwing out the objects in your home.
Instead, we mean looking at your life as a whole and figuring out what is causing you stress, what you do or don’t need, the pressures, the expectations, the general things that you do on a day to day basis. If we are all honest, we tend to get involved in things that we would rather avoid or replace with something better. Hygge allows for that, but only when you have de-cluttered your life, to begin with.
Let’s look at areas that may be of concern to you.
Okay, so we said at the start of this post that there is more to de-cluttering than just dealing with the home, but the home is a good place to start.
Previously, we discussed how we have a tendency to acquire things over time and that there is a reluctance to throw items out. This causes so many problems, and before you know it your home is creaking with all of the objects that you have in your possession.
This is in such opposition to hygge that it is difficult to even know where to begin.
De-cluttering while in a hygge state of mind is about more than simply throwing items out. Even with this action, there is a sense of you incorporating the art of mindfulness in what you are doing. You don’t just pick up something and throw it in the trash. That is a mindless act, but not in a positive way.
To kickstart this de-cluttering job, you need to have a sense of order in your home. There’s no point in moving around without a plan of action. You need to be in the moment and completely aware of the decisions you are making regarding what stays and what is going to be thrown out. Also, consider any item that may be given to someone else or donated to a charity rather than discarding it forever. Just because you are finished with it doesn’t necessarily mean that it cannot help another individual.
Step 1: Coming to Terms with Your Belongings
Coming to terms with your belongings is a major first step. Assessing what you own and how much ‘stuff’ is scattered around is extremely important. Unless you have been actively living a minimalistic way of life for some time, you will be surprised at what you have managed to purchase and own over the years.
As a result, this job could take longer than you were initially expecting.
Be prepared. Make a list of the objects that are in a room. Have no other distractions and focus on the job at hand. Take your time over this, as it is an important part of incorporating hygge into your home life, so you want to get it correct the first time.
Step 2: One Room at a Time
The next step is to only tackle one room at a time. Don’t be drawn into thinking about how much work you have to do throughout your home. Instead, focus on the space you are in, and only that space.
Step 3: Start Big and Work to Small
In this step, you need to start with the largest objects in the room and decide on the role they play and also whether or not they are practical and even being used correctly. The larger objects that remain will then determine not only the layout of the room but also what you can then actually keep.
Step 4: Giving Items Away
Consider giving your unnecessary items to someone that would appreciate them, or even to a charity shop that could make some money from their sale. There are many online groups for buying and selling, or even for free items, and it is easier than ever to find a new home for an old item.
No matter if you are giving the item away or if it is broken, you need to think positively of the item as it once served a purpose—even though that purpose is now different. There is a sense of giving it thanks for its service to you and acknowledge in your mind that it is now time to bring new things into that space that will serve a brand-new purpose. Also, the art of exchanging items with others is something that should not be forgotten. It is regarded as being very friendly, and as we will see throughout our posts, being friendly is a huge part of hygge.
Once again, you must think about the space an item takes up as well as the position in the room. Does it get in the way and are you constantly bumping into it? Is it broken in any way? If so, first look to fix it and give it a new life. If it can’t be fixed, then let it go
Work out these large things first, and the rest will then become so much easier.
Dealing with Friends and Social Situations
Perhaps you have a social life that is frenetic and doesn’t provide you with time for yourself. For this, you must ask yourself why you are being drawn into doing so many things. Are you unable to say no or are you worried about doing so?
Too often, we can be pulled into situations or positions that we would have rather avoided. It puts added stress on our body and mind, and yet we push ourselves even though it is extremely uncomfortable inside.
Those who believe in the concept of hygge won’t do this. It helps when everybody is on the same page regarding this as people are not as concerned about coming across as being cold or unfriendly if they are unwilling to participate in something. Instead, the Danes will just accept that there are other things that people wish to do or deal with and they don’t take it personally. There is an acceptance that you have to put your self first on most occasions, and this is not even regarded as being selfish as it is still done with a kind heart.
However, we will discuss friends and their role a bit more in the next post.
There is also the idea in hygge that you need to de-clutter your mind of those thoughts that are intrusive, and yet also pointless. We tend to bring additional stress into our life that is just not required, so it is clear that there is a need to look at those stresses and determine how they can be removed. That alone is a good enough explanation as to why hygge and mindfulness work so well together. It is almost as if they are twins in some sense. One works in perfect harmony with the other, but only when clutter is not all-consuming.